Module 6
Coaching with The Protector
Coaching with The Protector
Introduction
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Self-belief Coaches:
The discussion forum is where you can ask questions, share your thoughts, learnings, confusion and breakthroughs about this Module.
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Self-belief Coaches!
Part of the process of integrating learning is about reflecting on what has changed for you. Â
- Which 'face' of the Protector do you feel is most prevalent for you? Â What is the message that your Protector is telling you about this? Â And what does your Healthy Adult Self have to say?
- When you consider the type of client you usually work with, is there a typical Face to their Protector that they tend to have? Â How might this influence how you coached with them?
Please share your thoughts in the discussion!
This is a way of creating moment-in-time reflections that will help to anchor your learning. Your reflections may also be useful for your certification submission.
Finding this all super interesting Sas! I wish I had more time to come on and discuss in the comments as I keep meaning to and then don’t have hands free… but I wanted to say how fascinating I’m finding the faces of the protector and I was thinking during the session / wondering whether people ahve coached couples with this? I feel like the understanding of other people’s protectors could be hugely beneficial for relationships. Or even if not both the couple / people of some kind of relationship were there, whether you support clients in understanding others with this theory ? I think I’m looking at all this from a theoretical / hypothetical standpoint rather than from my own practice but just finding it really interesting!
Also was brilliant to see Scott demonstrate coaching the protector map in the study group – super helpful and powerful. I am feeling excited and also definitely feeling some protector voices showing up for me about how I don’t know enough to do it right yet and might not have the right instincts to do it as well as Sas / Scott (bystander & critic combo!)
I’m glad this is landing for you Harriet 🙂
And yes absolutely this shows up in relationships and causes all kinds of dynamics.
We see this when our (the coach) protector gets entangled with that of the client. Also within romantic and business partnerships, and between friendships.
As you say – it’s super helpful for clients to understand these dynamics!
A couple of ways I see this playing out –
- when two people’s protectors ‘match’ and so they both go down a hole together. This is because they share a sensitivity to particular risks.
- when one person has an aversion to a particular protector they may find it hard to understand someone who experiences this. This seems to be mostly when over-functioners meet under-functioners – particularly Critic and Scapegoat.
Sas, I’m just looking through the downloads for this module – should the Meet Your Protector Guidance be different from the Script? It’s the same document.
Ah that looks like a double up – you aren’t missing anything – I think we changed the name of the doc and posted this twice!
Hi Sas, where do we find information on how the different protectors interact – when they team up? Thanks
Hey Holly – you’ll find this on p 114 of the Workbook.
Me again, is it possible to get your slide decks? Thanks!
Is there something specific you are looking for Holly?
Nothing specific, They’re a nice summary of each module so would be handy to have them to refer back to quickly
Finding this all super interesting Sas! I wish I had more time to come on and discuss in the comments as I keep meaning to and then don’t have hands free… but I wanted to say how fascinating I’m finding the faces of the protector and I was thinking during the session / wondering whether people ahve coached couples with this? I feel like the understanding of other people’s protectors could be hugely beneficial for relationships. Or even if not both the couple / people of some kind of relationship were there, whether you support clients in understanding others with this theory ? I think I’m looking at all this from a theoretical / hypothetical standpoint rather than from my own practice but just finding it really interesting!
Also was brilliant to see Scott demonstrate coaching the protector map in the study group – super helpful and powerful. I am feeling excited and also definitely feeling some protector voices showing up for me about how I don’t know enough to do it right yet and might not have the right instincts to do it as well as Sas / Scott (bystander & critic combo!)
I’m glad this is landing for you Harriet 🙂
And yes absolutely this shows up in relationships and causes all kinds of dynamics.
We see this when our (the coach) protector gets entangled with that of the client. Also within romantic and business partnerships, and between friendships.
As you say – it’s super helpful for clients to understand these dynamics!
A couple of ways I see this playing out –